Selamat Hari Raya Idul Fitri 1429 Hijriyah. Mohon Maaf Lahir dan Bathin

elements of happiness

The degree of happiness is hardly to be measured. A man says that something can make him happy it does not mean that that thing can also make another man happy. Some people say that happiness comes in wealth so people will be happy if they are rich. The riches can do anything they want, buy everything they want to buy. So different with the poor where they are difficult to own something to be them.

Some others think that happiness is in honour. The higher of the social position the more people respect and the more people tend to specialised them. People in this conception of happiness thing that honour more long lasting than wealth, for wealth is only exist as long as the people still live but honour will still be remembered although the people are already die.

We cannot say that the two conceptions above are wrong but we cannot also blame them. People who say that wealth refers to happiness maybe because they are in hard economic condition who cannot fulfil their need and those who say that honour is the passage to happiness maybe they ever experienced something related to that. In conclusion, people cannot exactly compose the patron of happiness because it is obviously something related to social life and human being is something fluctuated or changeable depends on the situation they have.

We found some comments on happiness in Tasauf Moderen by Hamka. Many kinds of comment, but we decide to use the general comment, which are not to religious and easy to be applied in the play. The commentators are Leo Tolstoy, Hendrik Ibsen, Thomas Hardy, Bertrand Russel, George Bernard Shaw, Aristotle, and Imam Al Ghazaly. There are two groups of seeing happiness; the pessimist group and the sharing group, there are also the ideas of making the elements of happiness, and Imam Al Ghazaly is on the religious side.

The first group is the group who feel pessimist and hard to find the essence of happiness. Hendrik Ibsen (1828-1906), thinker from Norway, he believed that the way of finding happiness is only to waste time, because for him, they way is full of mysteries, there are so many obstacles for people to reach it. He thought that people sometime tricked that they feel they getting closer to happiness, but actually they are getting closer to their own fall, as it is quoted by Hamka, “We have not reach happiness yet, because actually every single step to get closer to it just to make us getting closer to our own fall.” (Hamka, 1939). This conception can be possible if we see people nowadays. People who have career in politic think that their aim, and their happiness, is to have an important position in legislative so that they can fight for their right and needs, but when it comes the time for them to have the position, they forget about their basic aims and they turn to be tyrannical senator, and that cannot be said to be people who are already reach their happiness, because they actually just getting closer to their downfall.

The same thinker is Thomas Hardy. He also thought that looking for happiness is just an attitude to waste time. If we see the example above, we may cannot blame this kind of idea, but then if we try to thing more deeply, their conception of idea is just the same to the idea of pessimism and discouraging ourselves to get better life.

The second group is about sharing happiness. Leo Tolstoy, in Hamka, stated that, he see happiness is when we share it to others, it also the reason why people be pessimist in searching the happiness because they do not share it with others. The happiness that only achieved by and to themselves is impossible because it is automatically done by disturbing the happiness of others. Philosophers in included in the same comments are Bertrand Russel and George Bernard Shaw.

According to Pythagoras, Socrates, Plato, and other Greece philosopher, there are four elements that build happiness, are Wisdom, Bravery, Honour, and Balance.

According to Aristoteles, the elements that build happiness are
1.Health
2.Enough wealth
3.Fame and Honour
4.Has achieved his life target
5.Sharp way of thinking and religious.

According to Tolstoy, there are two kinds of happiness are;
1.Ordinary Happiness, which is happiness for only oneself or privately
2.Real Happiness, which is sharing happiness with others.
The essence of it is when we love people like we love ourselves and we will be feeling happier if we can see people happy because of us. This conception then build such feeling that we were born for the sake of the community so that we have to serve the community.

This second conception of happiness is also the same with the comment of Gottfried Wilhelm von Leibnitz, he said, “To love is to place our happiness in the happiness of others”, it is appropriate for we are suppose not to give our love for only one or small coupe of community but also all people.

unchanted

My life is brilliant.

My life is brilliant.
My love is pure.
I saw an angel.
Of that I'm sure.
She (he) smiled at me on the subway.
She (he) was with another man (woman).
But I won't lose no sleep on that,
'Cause I've got a plan.

You're beautiful. You're beautiful.
You're beautiful, it's true.
I saw your face in a crowded place,
And I don't know what to do,
'Cause I'll never be with you.

Yeah, she (he) caught my eye,
As we walked on by.
She (he) could see from my face that I was,
Flying high,
Fucking high,
And I don't think that I'll see her (him) again,
But we shared a moment that will last till the end.

You're beautiful. You're beautiful.
You're beautiful, it's true.
I saw your face in a crowded place,
And I don't know what to do,
'Cause I'll never be with you.

You're beautiful. You're beautiful.
You're beautiful, it's true.
There must be an angel with a smile on her (his) face,
When she (he) thought up that I should be with you.
But it's time to face the truth,
I will never be with you.

"YOU'RE BEAUTIFUL" by James Blunt

And Because Love Battles

And because love battles
not only in its burning agricultures
but also in the mouth of men and women,
I will finish off by taking the path away
to those who between my chest and your fragrance
want to interpose their obscure plant.

About me, nothing worse
they will tell you, my love,
than what I told you.

I lived in the prairies
before I got to know you
and I did not wait love but I was
laying in wait for and I jumped on the rose.

What more can they tell you?
I am neither good nor bad but a man,
and they will then associate the danger
of my life, which you know
and which with your passion you shared.

And good, this danger
is danger of love, of complete love
for all life,
for all lives,
and if this love brings us
the death and the prisons,
I am sure that your big eyes,
as when I kiss them,
will then close with pride,
into double pride, love,
with your pride and my pride.

But to my ears they will come before
to wear down the tour
of the sweet and hard love which binds us,
and they will say: “The one
you love,
is not a woman for you,
Why do you love her? I think
you could find one more beautiful,
more serious, more deep,
more other, you understand me, look how she’s light,
and what a head she has,
and look at how she dresses,
and etcetera and etcetera”.

And I in these lines say:
Like this I want you, love,
love, Like this I love you,
as you dress
and how your hair lifts up
and how your mouth smiles,
light as the water
of the spring upon the pure stones,
Like this I love you, beloved.

To bread I do not ask to teach me
but only not to lack during every day of life.
I don’t know anything about light, from where
it comes nor where it goes,
I only want the light to light up,
I do not ask to the night
explanations,
I wait for it and it envelops me,
And so you, bread and light
And shadow are.

You came to my life
with what you were bringing,
made
of light and bread and shadow I expected you,
and Like this I need you,
Like this I love you,
and to those who want to hear tomorrow
that which I will not tell them, let them read it here,
and let them back off today because it is early
for these arguments.

Tomorrow we will only give them
a leaf of the tree of our love, a leaf
which will fall on the earth
like if it had been made by our lips
like a kiss which falls
from our invincible heights
to show the fire and the tenderness
of a true love.

Pablo Neruda

friends (may not be) forever

Apa yang kita alami demi teman kadang-kadang melelahkan
dan menjengkelkan, tetapi itulah yang membuat
persahabatan mempunyai nilai yang indah.

Persahabatan sering menyuguhkan beberapa cobaan, tetapi
persahabatan sejati bisa mengatasi cobaan itu bahkan
tumbuh bersama karenanya...

Persahabatan tidak terjalin secara otomatis tetapi
membutuhkan proses yang panjang. seperti besi menajamkan
besi, demikianlah sahabat menajamkan sahabatnya.

Persahabatan diwarnai dengan berbagai pengalaman suka
dan duka, dihibur-disakiti, diperhatikan-dikecewakan,
didengar-diabaikan, dibantu-ditolak, namun semua ini
tidak pernah sengaja dilakukan dengan tujuan kebencian.

Seorang sahabat tidak akan menyembunyikan kesalahan
untuk menghindari perselisihan, justru karena kasihnya
ia memberanikan diri menegur apa adanya.

Sahabat tidak pernah membungkus pukulan dengan ciuman,
tetapi menyatakan apa yang amat menyakitkan dengan
tujuan sahabatnya mau berubah.

Proses dari teman menjadi sahabat membutuhkan usaha
pemeliharaan dari kesetiaan, tetapi bukan pada saat
kita membutuhkan bantuan barulah kita memiliki motivasi
mencari perhatian, pertolongan dan pernyataan kasih
dari orang lain, tetapi justru ia berinisiatif
memberikan dan mewujudkan apa yang dibutuhkan oleh sahabatnya.

Kerinduannya adalah menjadi bagian dari kehidupan
sahabatnya, karenanya tidak ada persahabatan yang diawali dengan sikap egois.

Semua orang pasti membutuhkan sahabat sejati,
namun tidak semua orang berhasil mendapatkannya. Banyak pula orang yang telah menikmati indahnya persahabatan, namun ada juga yang begitu hancur karena dikhianati sahabatnya.

Beberapa hal seringkali menjadi penghancur persahabatan
antara lain :

1. Masalah bisnis UUD (Ujung-Ujungnya Duit)
2. Ketidakterbukaan
3. Kehilangan kepercayaan
4. Perubahan perasaan antar lawan jenis
5. Ketidaksetiaan.

Tetapi penghancur persahabatan ini telah berhasil
dipatahkan oleh sahabat-sahabat yang teruji kesejatian
motivasinya.

Renungkan :

**Mempunyai satu sahabat sejati lebih berharga dari
seribu teman yang mementingkan
diri sendiri

Dalam masa kejayaan, teman2 mengenal kita .
Dalam kesengsaraan, kita mengenal teman2 kita.

Ingatlah kapan terakhir kali anda berada dalam
kesulitan. Siapa yang berada di samping anda ??
Siapa yang mengasihi anda saat anda merasa tidak
dicintai ??
Siapa yang ingin bersama anda pada saat tiada satupun yang dapat anda berikan ??
Merekalah sahabat2 anda.
Hargai dan peliharalah selalu
persahabatan anda dengan mereka

LKMM Kader Bangsa Berbasis IESQ

acara tanggal 21-24 may 2007, lagi2 ajeng jadi wakil kampus, berempat sama seplin, ambar, sama yuno (ketiganya anak FKIP). wah capek banget, karena kan aku udah sibuk sejak jumat

jumat: kuliah sejak pagi sampe sore

sabtu: riwa-riwi sama mama dari pagi sampe malam banget, pagi belanja, siang bantuin packing, malam diundang tante ida

minggu: dini hari aku mau g tidur aja karena kan minggu pagi aku ada jalan sehat di kampus menanggal. bisa bayangkan toh?? minggu pagi aku ke kampus menanggal ikut jalan sehat sampai jam 9-10an, trus ke UPN ambil pesenannya mama di rental, sampai rumah langsung bantuin mama packing lagi, dan jam 12 nganter mama ke bandara. sampai rumah lagi jam 1an, langsung bobo, 2-3 jam. bangun tidur aku buat makalah buat acara LKMM, bikinnya dipotong acara makan, mandi, sholat, dll.. baru selesai jam 1-2 pagi, itupun belom di print karena printer rusak. selesai? belom! karena aku belom packing, jadinya bongkar lemari, cari baju dan setrika.. sampe selesai semuanya jam 3-4 pagi. aku g brani tidur, takut kebablasan, karena hari senin pagi aku udah janjian jam 1/2 6 sama bu.yefi. jadinya? ya udah, tidur2an aja sambil nahan nangis karena kecapean. o iya, satu lagi yang bikin sebel.. pagi buta jam 2 aku dikerjain dan dibikin nangis sama orang palu! waaaaaa.... rasanya kalo deket gitu udah aku tikam itu orang!

senin: jam 5 mandi, siap2 trus buru2 ke b.yefi.. singkat cerita, hari itu aku padat banget!g ada istrirahat, dari upacara dies natalis kampus nyambung ke peresmian gedung baru kebidanan abis gitu jam 12an menuju ke hotel utami, trus mandi dan siap2 ikut pembukaan. aku sekamar sama nasihatul ummah (unisma), fenny (um), dan therza (unair), semua jilbaban. jadi ati adem! mata berat.... tapi lumayan karena udah dipijitin fenny.

day 1:
seperti biasa, cemas juga.. aku bakal ketemu sama mahasiswa kritis dan pilihan (ciee... berarti aku juga, donk?!), pasti aku bakal kalah total debat sama mereka wong urusanku sehari-hari g jauh2 dari v/v! tapi tetap semangat!!!
day 1, malam: hancur, kelompokku g karuan. males komen ah!
tidur jam 12an pagi.

day 2:
pindah tempat, kelompoknya ganti (made suarjane, ayub, fenny, franky, ika, and me). semua lancar2 saja
tugas kedua, kelompoknya ganti lagi (nico dammen, andi patonangi, haerul, ulfa, and me).. tugasnya analisis wacana
pas malem ada pembagian kelompok buat peninjauan lapangan.. wah, aku kebagian kelompok 3 ke suryalaya (made suarjana, wahyu budi, yayak, ary, and me)
malem2 mo bobo, temen2 sempatin ngumpul dulu, sempet foto2.. trus ngobrol sama udjiq sebentar

day 3:
abis breakfast, langsung menuju ke mobil masing2.. seperti yang aku inginkan, aku dapet APV, punya kebidanan, gitu loh!
di suryalaya? ya gitu deh..
pulang peninjauan langsung kerja kelompok: no komen!
pas malem, aku sama udjiq yang pertama kali dateng itupun telat 1/2 jam.. wah, pak indra jaya methentheng nguamuk.. dia bilang "presiden mana lagi ini yang kita tunggu???!!!" waduh!
presentasi: no komen! kelompok suryalaya yang paling ancur, apalagi kelompokku. salah interpretasi. atau salahku? what a hell!!
eh, ternyata setelah presentasi dilanjutkan satu materi lagi dan penutupan. alasannya mungkin menghemat biaya, kan tempat acaranya sudah dipindah ke hall yang paling gedhe, dan alasan selanjutnya adalah biar hari ke-empat kita bisa free
malem tuh anak2 bikin farewell party.. truth or dare, males, aku g ikut. mending bobo! anak2 g bobo sampe jam 3-4 pagi

day 4:
bangun siang sampe g dapet breakfast (bisa bayangin kan kita bangun se-siang apa sampe g bisa dapet breakfast hotel??!). abis mandi trus ngumpul di 102-103, pada mo jalan2.. agenda utama ke LuSi. bayar 25an. aku naik kijang silver sama ngurah, ardi, udjiq, erick, yayak, andi, ayub, n wahyu. baru pertama kalinya nih ke LuSi, terkesima dan miris juga. abis gitu ke toko tas dan sebelum ke hotel sempet ke Mitra blanja makanan.
berhubung pihak panitia menyediakan 2 kamar kosong (102-103) sampe jam 6 sore, jadi y kita manfaatkan saja. semua pada bubar menjelang magrib. aku pulang nebeng mobil carteran anak2, lumayan dianter sampe rumah, urunan sih, tp gpp!


poin penting yang aku ambil dari acara ini adalah:
1. widening mind
2. networking
3. money? not really, udah abis sih!

kangen!!!

I TURN TO YOU - Christina Aguillera

When I'm lost in the rain,
In your eyes I know I'll find the light to light my way.
When I'm scared, losing ground
When my world is going crazy, you can turn it all around.
And when I'm down you're there pushing me to the top.
You're always there giving me all you've got.

For a shield from the storm
For a friend for a love
To keep me safe and warm,
I turn to you.
For the strength to be strong;
For the will to carry on;
For everything you do;
For everything that's true,
I turn to you. (oooo yeah)

When I lose the will to win,
I just reach for you and I can reach the sky again.
I can do anything,
'Cause your love is so amazing;
'Cause your love inspires me.
And when I need a friend, you're always on my side;
Giving me faith taking me through the night.

For a shield (For a sheild)
from the storm; (from the storm)
For a friend;
for a love (for a love to keep me safe and warm)
To keep me safe and warm,
I turn to you. (I turn to you)
For the strength (for the strength) to be strong;
For the will to carry on;
For everything you do;
I turn to you.

For the arms to be my shelter through all the rain;
For truth that will never change;
For someone to lead on;
For a heart I can rely on through anything;
For the one who I can run to; (I turn to you)
For a shield from the storm;
For a friend; for a love (to keep me safe a warm yeah yeah, I turn to you)
To keep me safe and warm,
I turn to you. (I turn to you)
For the strength (for the strength) to be strong;
For the will to carry on;
For everything you do; (everything you do)
For everything that's true;For everything you do;
For everything that's true,
I turn to you.

DIALOG KEBANGSAAN II

tanggal 8-12 aku jadi wakil kampus buat ikut acara DIALOG KEBANGSAAN II di Hotel Elmi. awalnya sih bukan aku, tapi ary, tapi tanggal 7 april malem tiba2 dia nelpon aku minta tolong gantiin. wah.. ngadak banget, mana kan ada tamu dari medan yang ketemunya paling cuma kalo lebaran. alasan ary sih rada klasik gitu, macam KDRT, tapi oke lah, mam-pap juga meski berat tapi akhirnya setuju juga, akhirnya aku juga nyanggupin.

wah, ternyata tanggal 8 siang aku udah harus check in, dan paginya aku masih harus lari kesana kemari buat ngurus surat penugasan, dan masalah makalah jadi terlupakan, sampai akhirnya aku ingat ada yang harus aku ambil dari rumah ary, eh sekalian aku dikasih makalah dia.

aku check in tanggal 8 sore (kan kata p.widodo cuma check in, blom ada pembukaan, toh!). sampe di elmi, dapet temen sekamar dari unsrat-manado namanya junita. she's nice, imut banget. sebentar aja kami udah bisa langsung akrab. setelah kenalan kami turun trus dinner, dan disitu kenalan sama temen2 yang lain.

materi2nya:

Keynote Speech:
“Pemberdayaan Mahasiswa Untuk Meningkatkan Kepekaan Dalam Menjawab Persoalan Kemasyarakatan dan Kebangsaan”

materi 1. Kepemimpinan yang Berbasis Moral, Teknokrasi, dan Demokrasi (Tinjauan Moral, Kekuasaan, dan Demokrasi)
materi 2. Membangun Kemandirian Bangsa (Tinjauan ekonomi, politik, dan sosial budaya)
materi 3. Krisis Kepercayaan Nasional (Tinjauan terhadap institusi pemerintahan, hubungan antar masyarakat, dan hukum)


day 1:
malam pertama dibuat panik gara2 makalah! aku harus ngumpulin makalah, dan ary g nyiapin aku buat itu, akhirnya g ada pilihan lain, so aku kumpulin makalah ary tapi namanya ak stipo, ganti namaku. trus akhirnya dari malam sampe pagi aku stress kontak p.wid terus2an meyakinkan dia biar aku g maju presentasi

day 2:
pembukaan. langsung ke acaranya. kaget juga lihat ternyata peserta banyak banget, dan tampangnya garang semua. waaa...
materi pembukaan tentang pemuda, ok lah aku bisa ikutin. abis gitu ada materi pertama... walah, puyeng rasanya... kupikir cuman aku, ternyata temenku jurusan akuntansi dari manado juga sama aja (tapi tetep lebih LoLa aku tentang ceramah ini..). abis gitu sorenya ada materi kedua. malam hari ada presentasi wakil mahasiswa.. yun presentasi, dan sebagai temen sekamar yang baek.. aku juga ikutan repot. bobo jam 1an kayaknya.

day 3:
acara pertama ada materi ke 3.. abis gitu bagi2 kelompok dan persiapan ke lapangan. g kemana-mana.. cuma ke gubernuran aja. pulang dari gubernuran kita sempet jalan2 ke DTC bareng yun, desi, pica, sama gris.. naik taxi ajah. pulang ke hotel.. siap2 kerja kelompok lagi. g bobo sampe pagi....

day 4:
karena g bobo, jadinya badanku rasanya g karuan. abis mandi trus breakfast, lanjut ke presentasi kelompok. semua selese dan siap2 pulang. jalan2 sama the guys ke DTC. it's hard to say goodbye with him.

seneng.....kaget....brainstorming....terharu....sedih....